1.28.2009

Popularity

I'm unhappy because I am unpopular, or so it seems to me. Isn't that sad? One of my weaknesses, I guess, is that I feel unwanted by the world.

I know that people like me, but because my phone is not ringing off the hook, or my facebook has zero notifications, or no one is knocking at my door, then what is the point of meeting people? I want to meet people because I want to go out, have fun or a good time, enrich each other's lives.

Isn't that sad, though? I want to be popular for my own satisfaction - because it makes me feel important or it makes me feel wanted. Once again, it goes back to my own insecurities, and my need to have them satisfied outside of my own self. I need someone to tell me that I am important, rather than simply knowing that I am.

I see my roommate, who is "popular." But, she is not popular because she is a socialite; she's popular because she works for a social organization and she does an enormous amount of work for it. She's popular because people need her to do something for them, most of the time.

The same way with me - I seek people out, not simply because I want to hang with them, but I want to feel justified by our positive interaction. I want to go on a date, not to get to know someone new, but to receive the attention from a male. I want to go to a party, not simply to meet new people, but to get compliments on a superficial level. I want to hang out because I want to meet my own needs, not the needs of others.

Something inside of me is missing, it's empty. Most Christians say that it's God. I may agree with them, most of the time. I do need to know that my worth and identity are found in my Creator and my Purpose. I believe this truth. But, I think we have these needs as a part of our purpose. I have a need to hang out with others, because I need to know that I cannot supply all that I need all the time. Contrary to popular opinion, I am not sufficient all by myself. By the grace of the Lord, He can bring those people to complete me, to meet my needs.

But, the purpose is not to meet needs, it's to have individuals function as a whole. If my condition is such that I am not sufficient on my own, and I share the condition with the entire human race, than it goes to show that all are not sufficient on their own. We need each other to be complete. What is that? What, what word is that?

COMMUNITY! (hahaa - Alicia?)

1.11.2009

Contentment

I would say that I am pretty content with my life. I like where I live and the people that I live around and I'm ok with my personality.

Most wisdom calls us to be content - to be content with our station in life, to be content with our loved ones, to be content with ourselves. But, I was thinking about it today and the world does not change through contentment. At least it takes a stirring of hearts or a dislike of something to invoke a change.

So, my question is: Where is the balance between contentment and the unrest that creates change? If we are to be content, would that not be a bland life? Would people create things that are better if they are truly content?

Please, discusss.

1.10.2009

Hello, home

OK, so it's been a little while. Well, a loooong while. But, it's been good. I've been distracted by my sewing machine and my family. Then I was distracted by being at home for the first time in months. But, now, I am no longer distracted. Well, maybe a little, but not much.

I could reflect on the benefits of being with my family, I could reflect on how horrible it was. I could reflect on the fact that it's a new year and therefore a new slate to begin things again. But, I think that I won't.

I've missed Isla Vista and the life that I have had. All I want to say is that I love you, and although my time here is limited, it has turned into something great. How many people can say that they live within blocks of one of the most beautiful beaches in SoCal? Or that they meet some of the most amazing people ever? I just had coffee with this very sweet girl that I met last summer. She is one of the most amazing people ever.

Maybe there are amazing people everywhere, but I like the people here. Some are different and some are not. But they are all amazing in the way that I like, that I'm used to.

Here's to you Isla Vista, not to the place, but to the people who make up the place. You are amazing.